I have a friend who used to live next door to us. She was, as we gay’s called them, my “fag hag“. That is until she moved away and then I didn’t see her again for many years.
All of a sudden, out of nowhere she calls me a couple of weeks ago begging me for my help. She broke her sisters computer and knowing that I used to build computers for a (semi) living, she begged me to come over to her sister’s house to help her.
I didn’t want to because I’m a hermit. I don’t leave the house unless it’s to go to the store, doctors appointments or to take the dog out. I have a huge case of Body dysmorphic disorder so I just don’t like being around people out of fear they are constantly judging me. Not just my face, skin and hair but also because I have facial ticks.
But what could I do? She was talking so loud and so fast on the phone, I could barely understand what she was saying so to get her to stop begging and to shut up I said ok, come get me.
Her sister pulls up to our front door in a few minutes and she brings me to her house. She drops me off and I go upstairs, look at the computer but I can’t do anything about it, the hard drive has crashed. I was there for a couple of hours switching hard drives since they had 3 of them but none of them worked. They all started to load a different version of Windows but always went to blue screen which was a clear indication that the hard drive had crashed.
Her sister finally takes me home and I think that’s the end of it.
About a week ago the sister calls me to tell me she’s at the computer store I told her to go to and asks me what kind of hard drive to buy. Naturally I told her she needs to have her crashed hard drive with her so she gets the right one. It has to have the same configuration as her old one otherwise a new hard drive (that fits todays standards) may not work in her (I don’t know how old) motherboard.
That happened to me once, I bought a brand new 320gb hard drive in 2007 for the computer I built in 2002 and it wouldn’t work. I ended up having to buy all new parts to build a new computer around that hard drive.
So she gets the hard drive and calls me asking if I’ll install it for her. I begrudgingly said I’d do it. My former BFF called to tell me that she has the mouse at work so I’ll have to bring my own. Well, that doesn’t work because mine is wireless, it won’t work with the Windows installation.
Anyway, long story short (too late?) I’m there for 6 hours, we cleared the CMOS because it had a password that nobody knew and I had to access it to get the job done. I install Windows and helped get her started with the windows updates.
The sister takes me home and she offers to pay me but, what do you say when someone offers to pay you money? I’m sure most people would be like oh sure that’ll be $60 (@$10/hr) please. I’m too embarrassed by money. We were broke and starving and we could’ve used the money, even $10 to get us some food but I said no thanks. She offered to buy me a pumpkin for Halloween or a Turkey for Thanksgiving. I’m not gonna go grocery shopping with her lol. Just take me home lol.
The next morning at 7am, the sister calls me accusing me of stealing her neighbors mouse. Excuse me? Are you kidding me? She knew I had a wireless mouse and she saw me grab MY mouse. I even watched her hand her neighbors mouse to her. I get paid $0 for 6 hours of work and I get accused of stealing. Uncool!
Well, it has been over a week and my so-called “fag hag” has not once called or emailed me via Facebook to thank me for getting her sisters computer working. If anything, she owes me the money because she is the one who messed up her sisters computer in the first place. But not even a simple “thank you” from her.
I will NEVER help another person who is not a permanent fixture in my life who I know is ungrateful and will not even thank me. I believe in Karma and I know that my karma is in very good standing.
Update 2011-01-23: She called me a few weeks later acting as if nothing happened and I told her I was pissed off. I told her what her sister did and she said she knew and she thought I was pissed off at her sister but I said no, I’m pissed off at you. She asked why and I told her because this is the first I’m hearing from her and I still haven’t heard a thank you for helping your sister out.
Then I told her that I removed her as Facebook friends but not because of this but because I am better friends with her ex who demanded that I remove her from my Facebook friends. She understood why I removed her and we haven’t spoken since.